House would have guessed it in 45 minutes.

pulled a muscle in the back of my thigh today.
guess how.

masturbating.

i couldnt cum
so frustrating.
so i did it until the angle, position, friction and determination made me cum.

little did i realize i was holding my leg up in the air in a weird position too long.

result? im limping.

Used and abused

How is a sub supposed to know when they're being abused, not dominated? Can they take control back to fix the situation or is that something the dom controls?

Having never really faced this situation, I had to get thinking a lot.

What I am gonna say will be controversial and misunderstood, but some people are in abusive situations and they are happy about it.

Some subs might consider themselves slaves and enjoy being beaten up by their masters. Some subs are actually quite assertive and "dominant" in their everyday lives and need a Dom that understand that once play time is over, they go back to being partners.

That last part is something I always had trouble with. I am a type A personality: I control everything and anything, at all time. Except in bed. That's how I get my fun, I disconnect, I become a fuck puppet. Someone's toy to enjoy. I would quickly see the difference between being abused and dominated cause I do no let the submission out of the bedroom.

Denial

Is orgasm denial a valid dom tool. If so, why does it work?

It's my opinion, as one, that a sub is much easier to control and dominate when denied orgasms.

Let's be honest, when we climax, the letdown we experience lowers one's enthusiasm to serve, to please, to submit. We're done, we had our fun.

And it's cumming a fundamental right? Live, breathe, cum? Being denied this, allowing someone to experience an orgasm, is truly an ultimate submission.

It says "I own you. You cum at my pleasure. Not yours".

Age ain't nothing but a number - 2

So I have friends in kinky places. Some are new to the kinkdom, some are experimented players.

And to help with the path of self discovery, I offered to write on some subject that may or not be of interest to me.

I like discussing kink, even in abstract concepts.

Age play (daddy/diaper fetishes included) versus Dom/sub relationships

I can see how they could be easily confused. I think it's normal sometimes to want to be nurtured, especially when sex was rough or took a lot out of you. I know sometimes I want to curl up to my lover as he spoons me, suck my thumb and call him Daddy.

I think I mentioned before how I have no daddy issues. No one was as tall, as wonderful, as smart and as perfect as me in my father's eyes. So this need call someone Daddy doesn't come from lack of love from my own father. It comes from wanting to feel loved, cared for and nurtured after sex took a lot out of me.

I am very open sexually, but I'm not into fecal matters sex. Heck ass to mouth has to be preceded by a couple of enemas until I feel my ass is cleaner than an operating room. For such, I certainly wouldn't be into diaper play. I actually wouldn't be comfortable role-playing an infant.

I need to look up to my mate, he needs to be strong, dominant, secure. Thus, I couldn't reverse the roles either and play mommy to an overgrown baby.

And are age plays related to Dominant/submissive relationships? Sometimes, yes. But I think most Doms would agree: it's more rewarding to have a smart grown woman submit sexually to you than having to handle a baby.

Oral Exam

I got into the subject of blowjob technique with a coworker the other day.

It's her belief that guys enjoy the dominant aspect of the thing. A pretty woman, looking lustly at him, his thick cock parting her greedy lips, being pleasured like a king.

It's funny cause I don't feel dominant when a guy goes down on me. If anything, I feel very submissive, exposed, used.

What do you like about mouth loving?